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My husband hasn't ever been supportive of me being vegan. He makes it very hard for me to make the full transition. I haven't used any dairy products in 5 years, but I still eat seafood and chicken 4 times a week (only dinner). It was a compromise we came up with when I decided I didn't want to eat meat and he felt I needed it. He eats vegan 3X a week. I only eat 2 - 3 oz. Not much, just enough to make him happy. A month ago I decided I didn't want to even eat that much, and he's constantly nagging me and worried that I'm being extreme and unhealthy. He won't watch any documentaries with me. Has anyone else experience this? Is there anything I can do to ease his worrying?

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    Posted by BunnyLuv at 08/01/13 19:42:03

    The only supplements I use would be Garden of Life's Perfect Food Raw and a protein and their raw protein. I'll have to look into spirulina.
    I do eat salad for lunch a lot, mostly because its easy, but I always include legumes, barley or quinoa for dinner and snack on raw nuts.
    I'm not expecting him to become vegan, but maybe he fears I eventually will. hmmm. Something to talk about.
    I think the problem is he is very into fitness and his fitness magazines push animal based proteins in extreme amounts. He was consuming so much when we first started dating that he found out he had high cholesterol, its back to normal now with the vegan days and only 1 protein shake a day vs 3.
    Thanks! I'll try to up my plant based proteins at lunch over the next month and see if that eases his worries.

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    Posted by WallysButton at 08/01/13 09:12:45

    Have you tried showing him articles about how healthy eating vegan can be? My husband has expressed concern in the past, but he's always been supportive... and the more he sees me eating responsibly and making well-rounded plant based meals, the more he knows I'll still be healthy...

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    Posted by DC1346 at 08/01/13 10:56:10

    I understand his concerns but also think that his concerns should depend upon what you're actually eating.

    If you're eating nothing but salads I'd worry about the lack of protein. Does your diet include plant based proteins such as legumes, nuts, non-dairy milk, or protein rich grains like quinoa? Do you take supplements like spirulina?

    There is a popular misconception among non-vegans that one must eat meat to be healthy. This is so ingrained in the American culture that portions of meat are often included for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

    Americans eat significantly more meat than many other people.

    If you are getting sufficient protein through your current diet, allaying your husband's concerns could simply be a matter of providing him with sufficient information to demonstrate that a plant based diet is healthy.

    I must say that I am impressed that he has been willing to compromise with you by eating vegan 3X a week. I'm sorry to say that I know many men who wouldn't do this.

    It sounds like your husband has an open mind.

    With this being said, how would you feel if he agreed to stop nagging you while he himself remained a non-vegan? Are you expecting him to become vegan as well or could you compromise by allowing him to eat whatever he wants to eat just as he would refrain from making adverse comments about your vegan diet?

    Best wishes!


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    Posted by fogtime at 08/04/13 23:51:12

    I'm surprised your husband eats vegan 3x a week. Do you expect him to stop eating meat completely if you stop eating meat? If so, that could be the problem. I know a lot of families in which one spouse eats meat and the other doesn't, including mine. You cannot expect your husband to give up meat entirely if he doesn't want to. If it's only you who would be giving up meat, no one can force you to eat meat.

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    Posted by Egesa at 08/08/13 02:03:56

    To claims that you're not getting required nutrition, ask which nutrients he's talking about, what the daily requirements are, and give him the nutritional info on the meals. There's free software & websites that can help with that. (e.g. "Cron-O-Meter"). That would definitively answer accusations re nutrition.

    If it's that he doesn't want to eat vegan foods, then he doesn't have to. Is the problem that he expects you to prepare all of his meals? Meal preparation I suppose would need to be negotiated - hopefully there's an equal division of labour in housework, but it's up to you whether you prepare non-vegan foods for him - better if at least you'd be vegan.

    Whatever the case, you need the confidence in your decision to face such challenges. Making sure you're well informed about nutrition for example will help build that confidence. It's also important to assert your own right to choose how you eat, and that it's not anyone else's place to control that.

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    Posted by veganmafia at 12/17/13 16:24:51

    go to the doctor and get all of your levels checked with him (iron, cholesterol etc..)and go see a nutritionist together and have them set up a meal plan.

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