I have opened my eyes to a point, in a way, where I see security holes and attempted caused situations by beyond-material levels (like horse breeding) where others see "oh, we are so similar, it must be fate".
I guess fate is shaped, forged and knit; attempted anyway. I hope it's aligned with deeper fate (ominous tone I say this in. I ponder how deeper fate comes to be... Forced fate is a really bad idea. Just look to arranged marriage, I have a friend whom went through something bad on this end.... Gotta make room for fate, improving fundamental dynamics even if by awesome "surface structures").