I'm headed to Honolulu and Maui in December and since it's my kids first time I'd love for them to see a typical hawaiian dance and flame show, but for (hopefully) obvious reasons don't want to go to a typical Luau.
Does anyone know of any good shows we could go to on Oahu or Maui?
Sorry this is a late comment. If you already had the chance to visit Hawaii, I hope you had a great trip.
If you didn't go yet or even have the chance to go back I definitely recommend checking out the Alii Luau at the Polynesian Cultural Center (www.polynesia.com/dining_and_luau.html). Our family had a wonderful experience!
I'd also suggest upgrading for the higher end buffet (it's worth the extra money). Aside from the food, the HA evening show was the best part of the night!